Saturday, December 27, 2008

How Do You Talk to a Woman?

Are you someone who is shy and can't look at a woman without blushing? Or maybe you are doing just fine until you see her horrified look and realize that you have planted a foot squarely in your mouth? The truth of the matter is that talking to women is easier than you might think, and if you are looking to smooth out your delivery or just to converse without sputtering or embarrassing yourself, there are definitely a few things that you should keep in mind.

The first thing that you should remember is that talking to a woman is in many ways, no different from talking with a man. Think about the linguistic tics that bother you when other people do them. The same basic rules apply when you are talking to a woman. Maintain eye contact, stand with your body squared up to the person that you are talking to, and don't fidget! Just learning these basic things can make a lot of difference.

Lots of people will tell you that when you are looking to talk to a woman that you should compliment her. This goes a long way towards getting your foot in the door, but again, there are a few things that you need to keep in mind. The first is that you should try complimenting her on something that she is proud of.

When a woman walks in, you may be captivated by her hair or her figure or her lovely face, but keep in mind that while she is aware of them, they are nothing special to her. Instead, is she wearing something that she obviously picked out with care, or is she carrying a purse that looks homemade? Take some time to think about what you can compliment that she is invested in. This can be a great way to start a conversation.

Don't expect anything. Just because you walked over to talk to a woman doesn't mean that she owes you her phone number or anything beyond a polite acknowledgment. She may be having a bad day, she might be just as shy as you are, or there might be a number of different things going on.

Take that into account and if she is not interested, smile and back off courteously. This can win you major points when she is feeling more social, but assuming that she owes you anything is a good way to make sure that you are going no where!

Finally, keep in mind that the more confident you are, the better. For many people, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, so be careful. Remember that if you don't like yourself, no one else is going to either.

After all, you know yourself the best and if you have made a judgment like that, who is going to argue. Be confident, know that you have a lot to offer and don't worry too much about people who are not interested.

At the end of the day, talking to women is easy . Just take some time and make sure that you are in a great place to move forward and remember that it is not as hard as you think. There are lots of women who are in a place to want to talk to you, so don't let this opportunity be wasted!

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